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28 May 2008 @ 10:35 pm
Theatrical Muse: Week 232: Question 232  
Name: Dr. Sid Hammerback

Fandom: CSI: New York

Word Count: 1105

Is there a situation where it's appropriate to be unkind?

Of course there is! But don’t pass me off as a cruel and unfeeling bastard, no, that wouldn’t be fair. Give me a chance to explain myself at least. Kindness and unkindness, the two polar opposites of whether you act with good or malicious intentions, they each have situations where it is appropriate to use them, and there is a large grey area where you can really, be either. Unlike computers, who have strict and rigid programming that tell them what to do under a specific kind of prompting, we are bound by that ever present collections of whims called social norms. These social niceties, saying please and thank you and walking on the right side of the footpath, they are imprinted into our minds by the people we are surrounded with and influenced by as we go through life, growing up, passing into adulthood, the whole blessed event. What makes us and this whole situation different is that we actually have a free will and can, at our own choosing, do whatever the hell we want.

The great factor about being good, is that for society at large, we get a real kick out of being nice, out of doing what has been decided to be, the right thing. We are pleased when we do something good and get a smile, and we do not like or appreciate it when we do something wrong, and are treated poorly. I have nothing against this reaping what you sow state of society however, because I do believe that being good and polite is beneficial just as much to the next person as it is to yourself. While you don’t always have to do everything that society thinks you ought to do, acting like a good person most of the time, generally works out in your favour.

As it seems, I might have a slightly more increased appreciation for being nice and polite than some people. First off, the world of cooking, is not a very nice place all of the time, because it is rushed and you get shouted at, and that is the truth. However, to earn money, it doesn’t matter what goes on within the walls of the kitchen, as long as you can leave at the end of the day and let go of all that pressure, all that anger. Just as importantly, when a Chef goes out to the customers, to talk or to check on how things are going, he, she, they, must act properly. Shout at a customer, treat them poorly and they’ll see fit to not give you any money. Seeing as restaurants run on money and reputation, it is worthwhile acting kindly, even if you’re really in a bad mood at the time. So you see, that is part of why I think it’s generally a good thing to be good, because the benefits usually far outweigh any of the displeasing consequences.

The current conclusion is that being nice, polite, good, whatever it is called, is better than being angry, grumpy or unkind. Yes, that is a general truth, but it is not always the right way to go. Being that I now work largely with the after effects of criminal or accidental acts, I see my fair portion of situations where bad actions create tragic circumstances. Murder is something that is never right, especially when it is done intentionally, with malicious motives working behind the whole affair. However, I have done and continue to work on accidental deaths, and while some of these are the same thing as general, awful murder, some also occur when people retaliate in self defence against an attacker. People, under duress from someone else, fearing for their lives, adrenaline pumping through their veins, can just as well kill their attacker as they can be killed themselves. In this case, the death, the murder itself is still a horrible, still a bad thing, but it is unkindness, done perhaps, for better reasons than murder normally occurs for.

In normal, daily life, people feel justified for getting angry when they have been annoyed too much by someone else, so I do see that there is an element of fair play as to whether we act pleasantly or gruffly towards other people. I accept, that while being nice, kind and considerate is often the most correct way to go, it doesn’t always have to be this way. Therefore, I have qualified, I hope, why being bad can sometimes be the other, not entirely negative way to go, just for a slight while, during the course of someone’s daily experiences.

When I really think about it, though, while murder can sometimes be justified, rarely, can it be done that way, it is still a bad thing, because life, the continuation of it, is important after all. This, therefore brings me to think about any real situation where unkindness is a good thing, one that can be justified truly, without argument.

That is it though! Of course! I have forgotten the most important unkind yet kind act there is! How foolish of me, I apologise, but I have been working a lot lately, it has been a while since I have indulged myself. Not months and months, fortunately, just a couple of weeks. However, while this argument is now getting tired, I must tell you the ultimate answer.

There are situations where it appropriate to be unkind, as a person can not always be kind all the time. Telling a child off for doing something wrong is not a kind thing, but it does teach them the social norms, the differences between what, within their society, is considered good or wrong, correct or incorrect. If a person constantly does something that is annoying, then it is not entirely inappropriate to ask them not to do it, and in doing so, a voice might be slightly raised. However, ah, here is the answer! Submission and dominance, that play between partners and lovers, that is one situation, one cumulative act where it is appropriate to be unkind. Being cruel, putting pressure on someone, hurting them even, during such an affair of requested mental or physical torment, well there is no way to argue that it is an inappropriate form of being unkind, is there? For what it is, being dominant over someone playing the submissive role, it is, when it all boils down, requested unkindness by one or both parties. I happen to like it quite a lot, actually, that tête-à-tête closeness, that struggle between power and the loss of control. It is so good, so pleasing, so, perfect.
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